A Vulnerable Introduction
Hello! My name is Alyeska Dronsfield, and I am the founder and resident coach of Intimate Endeavors. While I have been operating for some time, this is my first blog post. I'll be honest, I struggle with "selling myself"; putting myself out there. Compared to some of the more refined, seasoned coaches out there, I feel amateur.
Recently, though, I learned the word "amateur" means "one who loves" in French. As in, amateurs pursue things with the purpose of love, and whatever they do, they love to do it. And I really, really love being a part of people's journeys towards intimacy and empowerment. I love talking about sex, relationships, and self-esteem and guiding others towards the vision they have for themselves.
Nothing can replace the feeling of supporting a client's breakthrough moment, shining a spotlight on how incredible they're doing and how much progress they've made since we began working together. I love hearing about what my clients want, what turns them on, and how they experience feeling in their bodies.
My favorite thing about this work is introducing clients to their own agency and empowering them to communicate effectively both in and out of the bedroom. Many of us weren't given agency growing up, and we haven't learned how to take it back as adults.
The first time I ever considered becoming an intimacy coach was when I was seeing a sex therapist for my own struggles related to my desires and experiences during sex. She held shame-free space for me to be honest with her and with myself. Being able to freely talk with someone knowledgeable about sex was liberating; I wanted to do it all the time.
I trained at the Somatica Institute to ensure that I became a coach that truly supports client growth and helps them meet their goals using measurably effective methods and practices rather than someone who slapped the "coach" title on myself and called it a day. Every exercise I introduce to my clients are ones that I experienced from a "client" perspective myself.
The environment I aim to create with you is one that you feel safe in-safe to let go of your shame, embrace your desires, and define your boundaries. I'm not a therapist, so we won't be analyzing our emotions. We'll being feeling sensations in our bodies, maybe tensions from unresolved trauma, prickles from arousal, or warmth from safety. You and I are equals in this space, where you can practice skills with me.
I believe that for you to feel like you can be vulnerable with me, I should show you that I also strive to be vulnerable with you. I do worry that I'm not experienced enough or knowledgeable enough or interesting enough to be your coach. Sometimes I wonder if "Intimate Endeavors" is a silly name for my business. Putting myself out there scares me because then everyone in the world will know how much I love sex.
...But really, what's the problem with that?
